Love Can Be Complicated
Love is beautiful when it happens and it is the most amazing thing to happen to you but it can also make you vulnerable. So much so, that it can make or break you. While love always transforms you into a better human being, it seldom breaks you. However, when it does, it is quite tough to recover from it.
However, as you become stronger after heartbreak, you also realize that you can become protective. It can get to where you will subconsciously make a decision to not to make the same mistake of opening your heart again to someone. Therefore, it becomes very difficult to fall in love again and as they say, the first love is always the true love.
However, how can you make your heart love again innocently when it has already been hurt? Here are some necessary steps to take if you want to love again freely in your life.
Let Your Problems GoThe most important and crucial step to use is to let it all go. This is one thing you will probably hear the most from almost all the experts on the topic but would be the toughest thing to do. How can you let go off the turmoil and the pain that you had to go through during the last breakup? The fact is, you need to let go of the past.
It is very easy to hold on to old memories as it gives you pain. Over a period of time, you start liking pain because it reminds you of that person and takes you back in time. It is important to forgive the person truly in order to let go completely so you can avoid this problem.
Think About Why It Happened
Asking yourself the question “why it happened” to get rid of the pain. However, do not get consumed by the question and fall prey to self-pity. The question should help you to observe the whole scene from a distance like how a third person would watch your story.
Give Yourself Time And Space
Use a bit of time for yourself before you fall in love again. If you fall in love before your heart is ready then you will never be able to love that person truly again. This will not be good for you and for that person as well.
Don’t Think About Bravery
Most people feel that once their hearts are broken, they will never be able to love again with the same intensity or innocence. It is considered brave to not to open your heart to someone. However, if you look at it closely, you only try to protect something which you fear losing. Therefore, not bravery but fear makes you protect your heart and not open it to someone.If you look at it from the other perspective, how can you lose something that is such an integral part of you? Therefore, do not protect your heart if you want to get back to love.
No doubt, when you go through a breakup, it is very easy to stop believing in love and it all seems a fairytale but that is the beauty of love. In today’s time when people are hateful and killing each other for obnoxious reasons, it is a blessing if you can learn to love innocently.